Becoming a Male-Gendered Feminist
I frequently get strange looks when I announce myself as a feminist. I am clearly gendered male in physical appearance, though my clothing displays androgyny. My first post concerns the journey I have made to become a male-gendered feminist.
I have a deep desire to be the “good person”, which leads me to feminism on a selfish level. When I operate on this level, I am able to in good conscious tell any woman I meet that I “know how she feels”, when I in fact have no idea. Operating on a selfish level, I have no ability to access the embodied knowledge of being a woman, nor understand the emotional and bodily response to living in a patriarchal culture.
To move beyond this, I desire to also become a feminist at a level of deep empathy and understanding. To accomplish this, I try to engage in what I think of as “feminist appenticeship”. This is a process of forming close relationships with feminist women, asking questions, and “performing” as a female feminist.
It is only through this process that I feel I could become an embodied feminist, moving beyond my selfish desire to be the “good person”.
I will depend greatly on comments from readers to determine what I will write about next. My largest question is “Am I allowed to know?” “Is this knowledge forbidden to me?”